Treat yourselves the way you would like to be treated!
It always saddens me when I see an amazing woman- some thoughtful, beautiful (both mentally and physically) human being- not believe she deserves the world. Watching as this incredible person feeds into their insecurities, projects those insecurities on others, let themselves be taken advantage of, and doesn’t practice self-love or self-care, is extremely disheartening. And I have yet to meet one woman that has not given in to at least one of these experiences.
Don’t get me wrong, these experiences can produce invaluable lessons and lead to the development of self-esteem and self-love, if the opportunity is taken to learn from these experiences and the necessary steps are taken to better oneself.
If not- we get stuck.
And by stuck, I mean we allow the cycle of doubt and punishment to continue. We do this when we refuse to do anything about how we are being treated or how we are feeling.
Anytime we allow this to happen via inaction or action, we are subjecting ourselves to a special kind of suffering. This suffering can be all consuming and alters the life of the host for as long as they allow. I see this happen in romantic relationships all the time. Partners take advantage of partners. I also see it with women who have untreated mental illness. Their ideas of themselves do not fit their reality (ex. They feel horrible about themselves when they are actually truly amazing people). Combine this line of thinking with people who also do not see their value and you have yourself a recipe for mistrust, disappointment, and unhappiness. That’s one hell of a mixture (every pun intended).
I genuinely want to see women succeed and value themselves, demanding and enforcing standards for how they treat themselves and how they expect others to treat them. All women have the power to make this possible, they just need to believe they can utilize it.
If you are unhappy in anyway, please do something about it.
You are in no way stuck.
It may feel that way because your options offer only difficult solutions, but in the words of S.C. Lourie…
Just for the record darling, not all positive change feels positive in the beginning.
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